i lost my life partner on june 1st from a horrific auto accident right outside my driveway…not only did i hear it happen, but i wasalso the first on the scene with his brother…i am a nursing student and my first aid did kick in but when i reached down to find a pulse i could not find one and by the position of his body and all his extremities i knew it was bad…he was life-flighted to the hospital after 45 minutes and the doctors worked on him all night which gave me false hope there was a chance…
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Added by Kimberly Furmanchin on November 23, 2009 at 8:17pm —
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Our pastor talked yesterday about weathering storms and how God creates these storms just for us. Only we can get through them. Other people who have been through similiar curcumstances can help, but we have to figure out with the help of God, how to stay afloat. The problem is people don't want to see my grief. They want me to say that I am doing ok. Well, I'm not! I'm angry and sad and don't understand why my Dad died so suddenly. I dread the holidays and just want to go to bed and pull the co…
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Added by Cindy Giron on November 23, 2009 at 10:06am —
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School is hard. I can't get my grades up. I'm losing intrest in trying anymore. I feel that I wont graduate or get my dream job. It's so stressful I feel that theres no point trying. I have nothing to look forward to in life if I never graduate. I feel like commiting suicide so I don't have to put up with it anymore.
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Added by ann speck on November 17, 2009 at 11:37pm —
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School is hard. I can't get my grades up. I'm losing intrest in trying anymore. I feel that I wont graduate or get my dream job. It's so stressful I feel that theres no point trying. I have nothing to look forward to in life if I never graduate. I feel like commiting suicide so I don't have to put up with it anymore.
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Added by ann speck on November 17, 2009 at 11:37pm —
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i miss my mother. i am having flash back when the police and family told me that ahe'd had died. it seemed that i couldnt get home quick enough when i found out . i am fixing to be back on anti depressants but i just need to write out . when i get married i cried because she wasnt there, the happiest moments and sad moments she's not here. i keep having what if's going through my head all the time. she had heart disease an didnt wanted my dad to know bout it. . i miss her a great dill. everythin…
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Added by jennifer daniels on November 12, 2009 at 11:00am —
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Its still hard for me to sleep at night. My doctor gave me "something" to help me sleep, but I don't feel I need to take it often. I spend most nights (that I'm off) awake in front of the tv. I hate that I don't feel motivated to do things around the house. Sometimes I want to move to another house but then I think about all that I would be leaving behind, the memories of her. I often turn off all emotions and just work on auto pilot. I hate that my husband isn't here, especially when I lay here…
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Added by Latisha on November 8, 2009 at 5:12am —
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Dear Aly,
I thought about you today baby. i thought about you alot. i watched the notre dame game. they were your favorite team in all of football. So i went to your myspace page to read the comments that people wrote and i saw that Kyle and his girlfriend had a baby boy! he is soooo cute! you are an aunt! Tucker is soooo lucky to have an aunt like you watching over him.
i even cried a little bit today cause you will never be able to meet Tucker and he will never be able to meet you. but i am s…
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Added by Jen Miller on November 7, 2009 at 11:56pm —
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I was 16 when I lost the first person of great personal relevance to me - alright, it was Kurt Cobain and I was under the influence of great angst and the grunge movement - true, I had experienced the loss of my grandparents prior to Kurt's suicide, but those deaths were easier to reconcile with the natural course of life and the truth of mortality. Kurt's death was different, it was very personal to me and, combined with natural 16 year old self-involvement, directed me into a major period of i…
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Added by jenn murphy on November 5, 2009 at 3:29pm —
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It keeps occurring to me, in a beat me over the head and smack me in the face kind of way, the total disparity between the almost instantaneous way in which I verbally began to refer to my mother in the past tense while on the other hand my mind, my imagination, my thoughts continue to function as though my mother was still present in my day-to-day life. Of course I'm struck by this often because my mother is pretty much all I think about these days.
So, what is the deal? Is it two separate par…
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Added by jenn murphy on November 5, 2009 at 3:28pm —
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The holidays can be a stressful time for many people. Those that have recently lost a loved one, or are marking the anniversary of the death of a loved one, may find the holiday season especially difficult. The best way to cope with holiday grief is to mentally prepare oneself for it. There is nothing you can do to prevent holiday grief from happening, and you shouldn’t aim for that. Grief is a natural and healthy part of life. But there is some advice you can heed in order to quell overwhelming…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 5:32pm —
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During the United States’ grim economic times, families have had to pinch pennies in many areas of their lives, especially when it comes to remembering a loved one that has passed. Funerals, like many other highlights in a person’s life, can cost families thousands of dollars. In reality, one does not need to spend a lot of money to memorialize and remember a loved one who is no longer with us. There are many options families can choose from to memorialize one who has passed that require little…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 5:29pm —
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Grief comes in many shades and colors. On average, each of the 2.5 million deaths every year in the United States directly affects four people, each of whom has a unique way of
dealing with bereavement based on gender, culture, personality, and age.
Age makes a tremendous difference in how grief affects us. A teenager will deal with death much differently than a 70-year-old will. Understanding how grief manifests in people differently at…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 5:27pm —
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I recently (2 months or so ago) went through a breakup of a relationship of almost 2 years, and I am really having a hard time dealing with some of it.
I know it's not as final as a death, but I am still grieving, and I feel like total crap.
I don't have a lot of time to go and see traditional counselors, and sometimes I even feel like they have NO CLUE about what's going on with me because they are educated and trained to give advice, but it makes me wonder if they have EVER gone through what…
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Added by Leslie Taylor on October 30, 2009 at 12:01am —
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well i am happy to tell everyone that i think i am doing better. i am happy to tell myself that.
my grandma doesnt have stomach cancer. and there is a possibility that she has another type of cancer but the chance is not as great as before. so it could be something else.
And for the first time in 3 months, i am able to talk about Aly without crying or breaking down. i am trying to move on with my life, and i am still stuck here thinking about that dreadful day, but i am working my way through…
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Added by Jen Miller on October 29, 2009 at 11:03pm —
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Added by Diana Young on October 28, 2009 at 9:50am —
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Well this week will probably get worse.
On top of trying to deal with the loss of my friend, schoolwork becoming extremely frustrating, my sister moving out, and trying to take a breath, my grandma is extremely sick. Shes not eating alot and she is very weak......She has had stomach cancer before but they said it was all gone. She went to hell and back with the treatments.
Well today she had a CAT scan and we dont know the results but they said there is a good chance that it is stomach cancer…
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Added by Jen Miller on October 26, 2009 at 11:29pm —
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For me grief has been something like this; you know when you're in an airplane or at a loud concert or club and your ears plug up so that everything outside of your own thoughts is muffled and garbled and ultimately it becomes too much effort to attempt to focus on anything outside yourself (maybe that part is just me - I'm both lazy and self absorbed)?
Then suddenly, out of the blue, your ears pop and unplug and you are hyper-sensitive to the slightest sound?
So I was all plugged up for the f…
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Added by jenn murphy on October 19, 2009 at 3:30pm —
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When my dad died 7 months ago i didn't really allow myself to grieve properly and i just got back to work and going out with my friends, and drinking alot. now i look back and can't believe how much time has passed. I feel like i want to stop everything so that i don't get any further away from when it happened. I want to be able to break down and take some time to deal with this but i feel like i should have done it 7 months ago, and now the world around has moved on and it's like im not allowe…
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Added by Benny Shipton on October 18, 2009 at 8:31pm —
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so right now i just feel like screaming at the top of my lungs. i want to scream and cry. but i cant. I want to scream at somebody and tell them that i hate them for taking her away from me. i want to know why they took a 14 year old girl away from me? She was my friend. how could they do that? she had her whole life ahead of her! she was the strongest person i know. how could you do this to me? to her family?.........but i have no one to yell at because no one is to blame. No one killed her. Sh…
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Added by Jen Miller on October 18, 2009 at 2:19am —
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This is a poem I wrote after my mother was diagnosed with cancer
The Light out of the Tunnel
In this dark hour I feel trapped because I've buried this pain deep inside
I try to ignore these feelings but they bubble up and are too strong to hide
My fear and helplessness lead me to cry out in desperation
Cause I cannot bear the thought of losing another and somehow feeling less whole
And I try to understand this journey and the reason for things in life
But it's hard to see past this darkness th…
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Added by Katie Grace on October 11, 2009 at 1:11pm —
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