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ok its update time
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Started this discussion. Last reply by donna henderson Nov 5.
thank you all so very much
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Started this discussion. Last reply by healing07 Jul 3.
how do i release the hate?
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that is wrong and i hope that the judge and jury see through his tactics, he made a choice albeit a wrong choice and in no way am i condoning his actions. but he took a life and now he has to face the consequences of his actions. He should have th...
hey fred. maybe so. we'll never really know the reason G-d took our children. but yes, maybe her soul had to go for a very specific purpose. you are angry. angry at what happened to her. and angry that she has passed on. but you sound like a good ...
honest aproach thank you. i have tried talking untill it hurts. ok thats full time, im thinking i will never be right in the head again, and your smarter than most ive spoken to as well. i hope you are able to help
thank you,
fred
as money is an issue i cannot ignore theres no grief counselors willing to touch my case.and as for friends i'm learning fast theres no such thing. but thank you for the attempt
her picture is the one on my page
hi thanx 4 your comments and well wishes. no then onto the dog training. positive reinforcements like treats are great motovators. as well as most animals thrive on their owners praises. however.... .... heres a home security tip even the smallest...
rage= fully consuming undetered hate flowing out with such power your entire being is lost and it consumes you competly. it is undeniably the most honest of all emotions! is it not?? now for why i chose it. put simply it is the easiest emotion to ...
i dont think god took her to stop you because as a loveing father you would have stopped yourself think about would you rather kill and take yourself away from your angel i think god neededtheir help somewhere else and the anger you feel is justif...
Thank you for the update Fred. I've been waiting to hear. Love the ranting cause then I know your okay. Like I said before better here then somewhere else. Sending hugs to you and family.
Fred - I would join you in your program - I work as a foster carer and look after the poor kids that are damaged and hurt by their 'parents'. I reckon some people should take a test before they have kids! Good on you guy!!! Do something special li...
Your babies are beautiful Fred! Easy to see how much love they have for you
you are a stronger person than i am robert. i hope life lets you hold on to the rest as i am trying to do as well.we must cherrish what we have i think is the cruel little kid god must be to inflict death on any of our young! sorry bro!
ok its going too far she broke out in a sweat!! injection in cell 4 PLEASE!!!
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- About Me:
- i am an old biker my kids were taken from the mother i was unable to get my kids out of foster care as a result of my being a biker. now they begin to fear a bikers wrath too late for all in my path now. i became a better person years ago i lost who i am. no more i am reawakened.
- About my Loss:
- on 03-21-08 my 18 yr old daughter was shot and killed. they got the child that shot her yet i still cant let go of whats obviously pure hate. it is over a year and still i cant stop crying, hitting the heavy bag, wanting to destroy every thing person etc. i need help!
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i wanted to start a program in her memory that eliminates the need for foster care,child support,deadbeat parents,and eventually poverty.
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
Posted on June 6, 2009 at 1:44pm — 1 Comment
the time to deal with things
after tommorows date im taking a much needed break from our society. mayby mexico on my bike. pay some vato a few hundred dollar bills to get my agression therapy. or pop up to canada and let some frenchy look down his nose at me. lol... ...whatever tomorow brings ill probably need it. ill probably have to wait until the ledger posts the outcome. but if i gased up now i could get there easily on time. deciscions deciscions. na i'd try 4 him . i wouldnt introduce myself to anyone. just go sit in… Continue
Posted on June 2, 2009 at 4:05am — 2 Comments
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- At 6:34am on May 22, 2009,
Katherine Ellis said…
- I just went and got a tat on my back on an angel for my daughter. Even though she wasn't taken from violence, I had to watch her drown and there wasn't anything we could do. You just got through an anniversary date which is double hard to take. Keep on crying and hitting that heavy bag. It does help. Try to let your family at least heal part of your heart. It will never heal all the way. There isn't anything wrong with a biker guy, I'm married to one. If you need to rant, email me I'm listed and always ready to listen if it will help you. Hugs to all of you, Katherine
- At 7:50pm on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said… - p.s. you should put your picture back online as well. Just click photos under quick add.
- At 9:11am on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said…
- my brother was killed and the person that killed him walks the street, all because he convinced the authorities that James committed suicide - not true. I know how you feel. But I have channeled my hatred into more positive things. I believe in Karma, so I know its just a matter of time. Have you found any grief support groups in your area? That is how I started to cope, but I needed more and that's why I created this site. It may help to post pictures of your daughter and talk about her on here. There are a lot of people that will wrap their arms around you. Well virtually anyway. (((((hugs)))))
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I love my Dad.
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Losing Someone to Cancer
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Missing my Son or Da...
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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
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Tattoo Memorial
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Multiple Losses Group
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I Miss My Parent(s)
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Dear Group,
Thank you so much for listening and for your feedback. It's like I know all the right answers, but gosh, this is hard. Gail, you are further down the road in this process and it gives me great hope that eventually I will be in a better...
my name us David steinbock im jackie husband. I just to thank you all shearing your pain and grief ,it has help me lot .some time i have no idear what to day to her.I know today that i can take that pain away from her. its the first time in my tha...
Allan - grief has to be handled one day at a time - no-one can push you to go any faster than your heart wants to go.
It was a little different for me with Meshael being so young, all her things were in her room just as she left them. I was the on...
Allan, I understand and know just how you feel. When I returned home from Fairbanks I had a large suitcase with lots of Angela's clothes and purses; the suitcase remained in the extra bedroom, on the bed, wide open for about 2 months. I could not ...
Dear Group,
Here's my latest dilemma. Over the holidays a large box came to reside at my house. My daughter's husband Shawn left the army and has taken a new civilian job in Kentucky. Before moving he packed and sent this large box of Callie's clo...
Thanks Gail. I am pretty sure that I am not grieving correctly - at least according to some other peoples' standard. The problem is I cant do much about it. After all the appropriate expressions of sympathy were made - cards, flowers, gifts to cha...
Wow, so many amazing stories.
Thank you, Gail...there are times I feel like just screaming at the top of my lungs telling the world to leave me alone!! I hurt and I will deal with my grief in a way that suits me!!! No one will tell me how to grieve or how long to mourn the dea...
I am sorry if I don't grieve correctly.
Please share with me the standards you use to judge.
In the beginning if I held my emotions it wasn't enough.
Yet now you do not wish to be reminded of what I can never forget.
How can one judge someone els...
I have been very lucky to have many ADC with my husband. When he died, I saw him over his hospital bed waving to me, saying I love you, and going to heaven. He also messes with my computer because he knows I am not that computer literate. He has c...
Tania:
I know how you feel. The stupid things people say because they don't know what to say. It has been only 8 months since I lost my husband suddenly and my sister has been constantly telling me that life goes on and get over it. She has never ...
I just joined the support group today. I lost my partner/soulmate on October 14th very unexpectdly in three hours. We later learned that a blood clot had passed through her heart. I am having a hard time trying to go forward and am hoping joining ...
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And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
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