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Traumatic Losses
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My beautiful mother died suddenly 8 weeks ago today. I found her sitting up, and knew she was gone. It was very traumatic I can not get her finally image out of my heart! It scares me that someone ca…
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I need help! I wake up in the mornings and wnt it to all go away. My pastner died suddenly on 25th September 2009. I found him and had to perform CPR but it was too late. I miss him more than is bearable. I don't want to go to work or do anythin but…
My brother was just killed on November 9th in a horrible, freak work accident that we're still trying to understand how it happened. My husband was at work with him, and has nightmares about what he saw, and horrible regrets over how he think he did…
My heart goes out to all of you who have had a loved one ripped from your life, that is what it feels like to me. I always thought as you got easier it would not be so hard to lose a parent, I am 47 and it is breaking my heart to bits. My best frien…
Today the Christmas tree is up. Some years are easier than others. This year I just feel empty. I don't think we would have placed one in our home had it not been for our grand-daughters living with us. How they fill our hearts and bring smiles to o…
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.
Many of us have lost more than one person or event.
Come share!
I just joined the support group today. I lost my partner/soulmate on October 14th very unexpectdly in three hours. We later learned that a blood clot had passed through her heart. I am having a hard time trying to go forward and am hoping joining th…
i just lost my grandma who i have lived with for the last year and was really close and i am really missing her its really hard right now because of the holidays coming up
Thanks to all who wrote words of encouragement. I have a strong faith in God and that helps me get through.
Thanks Katherine,
Today is hard as it is my 47th birthday. My first one without my mom being here. It is so quiet in the house when you are alone. Did you feel restless and difficulty sleeping? Its getting a bit better but I miss mom so much and da…
We lost our wonderful daughter while we were all whitewater rafting. We couldn't save her. One moment she was waving she was okay and the next she went under and didn't come back up. Her foot got stuck in some rocks. That was 9 years ago. The path o…
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- About Me:
- I am a student in the Medical Assisting program and will soon start my internship. I have been on the honor roll every session. Thanks to the love and support mom has given me. I miss that! I am excited about doing my internship and wish I could come home and tell her about my day but i can not.
- About my Loss:
- Two days ago I had a mass funeral for my mom she was 67, one day shy of her birthday. She died at home and I found her and am haunted by those images.
I lost my dad in 2005 to colon cancer and have no other relatives, so I am on my own and scared! Yes I have two very close friends I consider family but now that my parents are gone I feel lost.
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- At 8:51pm on November 04, 2009, Julie Marie Weiss added a gift to their profile…
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- At 9:55am on September 11, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said… - Hi Julie-
Just thinking about you this morning and hoping you are doing okay!
Carrie
- At 2:23pm on September 4, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- How irritating and insulting....SHE needs space. Perhaps you are better off without this friend....seems like an awful thing to say considering what you are going through.
Well, I am here for you anytime and I sincerely mean that. I hope that you are VERY proud of yourself and what you are accomplishing in the middle of this awful situation. Congrats on being in your final 8 weeks....that is AWESOME! You may not feel so strong right now but you are and, when the time comes for you to graduate, if you need someone there.....I will be that someone for you and I mean this from the bottom of my heart.
Do you still have things that you have to take care of (meaning bills, estate accounts and whatnot)?? This is an area that I am having a lot of trouble with right now. It is so overwhelming. I had to sell my parents house, go to court to get appointed Personal Representative, hire an attorney, open an estate account, sell their cars, cancel insurance etc etc and I have a stack of medical and other miscellaneous bills that I have to take care of. I wonder if life is ever going to feel "normal" again!
- At 12:14pm on September 3, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- Hi Julie-
How are you? I hope you are well today. Please do not apologize for repeating yourself..my mind has been so confused that I have trouble keeping track of anything I do or say right now so I completely understand.
I am sorry that this friend chose to walk away from you at this time. It is hard to understand why someone would do this. I really do not have anyone that I feel I can talk to about this. People do NOT understand and I think most of them would rather avoid the topic altogether, as they are uncomfortable and do not know what to say.
Hey, by the way, we are both in Wisconsin. I am in Kenosha.
- At 8:01pm on September 2, 2009,
Carrie A Williams said…
- Hi Julie-
I can not thank you enough for responding. When I read what you had wrote, it was the first time I felt there might be someone out there who understands the fear and loneliness I am consumed by. I am so sorry for what you are also going through. I know the pain and fear. I hope that somehow we can support each other and come out on the other side of this okay. I have a friend who keeps telling me that one day it will be the norm that my parents are gone....I cannot EVEN imagine ever feeling that way.
I have been married for 10 wonderful years and love my husband deeply but this has caused so much strain on us that I even feel alienated from him. We have not even spoke in 2 days even though we are in the same house. I am scared that I will end up alone. My marriage has never been through anything like this and it is taking its' toll. I don't know how to fix it.
My Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in March 2008 that had spread to his bone, spine and brain. He died June 28, 2008. My Mom was already getting ill with Picks Disease but it was still so mild that her symptoms went unnoticed with everything else going on. My father wanted to die in his home and my Mom would not give him medicine or take care of him (not because she did not want to, she could not...she would get hysterical). I figured it was the grief and pain. I had to move in with them and care for my Dad. Then, when he passed, I needed my Mom so and she was not there at all. I could not figure out what was going on.....I thought she was having a nervous breakdown due to losing my Dad. As the weeks were passing by, my Mom was getting really out of touch. Pick's Disease is a rare degenerative brain illness that causes dementia. In February of 2009, she was still living alone and paying her bills and, by March 30, I was moving her into a facility and she was calling me Mom. She lost the ability to talk and walk. I took her to so many doctors and I was told everything from Alzheimers to mental illness. Her doctor even put her in a lock down mental ward for a week....it was HORRIBLE. I was alone with her at the doctor the day I was told that she had Pick's Disease and was going to die. Throughout the whole time I took care of her, I learned to never show emotion because she was like a child and would look to me for reactions to things the doctors were saying. I never cried in front of her and I never grieved my Dad. By May, she was in a wheelchair, had no communication and her arms and legs were completely contracted. My Mom passed on June 3, 2009. This day is my parents wedding anniversary and mine as well. It was less than one year after my Dad died and the first anniversary she would have had without him. My father was 60 when he died and my mother was 62.
I hope to hear from you soon.
Take care and thanks again for reaching out to me.
Carrie
- At 2:12pm on September 1, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said… - Hey Julie, I am a CMA but currently do not work. After I completed my MA and worked for a couple of years I decided to complete my B.S. in Business. After that I worked as an exec. asst. to two hospital directors. Got really burned out and started working on my teacher's certification...spent the last two years working as a substitute teacher. I feel you can never learn too much...where will you be doing your internship?
- At 4:44pm on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- June 22 is the day my numbness ended. I remember this day well because I had an appointment with my physician. A little history so you know why I remember this day so well...my daughter died in North Pole, Alaska-I live in San Antonio, Texas. Her accident happened at 12:15 pm and she was declared dead at 12:49 pm. This was on a Monday. I kept everything inside because I had so much to do for her Memorial Service here at home but before this was to take place my niece and I flew to Fairbanks for a private viewing and her cremation. We returned home and planned her service for June 7. We then returned to Fairbanks for her service there on June 13. The week after I returned I was so exhausted. When I went for my doctor's visit on the 22nd I broke down completely and cried like I had never cried before. I was referred immediately to a therapist. I refused medication because I was afraid of not feeling any emotions, good or bad, so I toughed it out. It was a "roller coaster ride from hell" without the meds but I made it through okay. Your emotions will range from numbness, to sadness, to anger and everything in between. I don't tell you this to scare you but to let you know that they are normal during the grieving process. If you can, meet with a therapist. I visited my therapist twice and have not felt the need to return. I found my grief was more pronounced when I was tired. Mornings are usually good but every now and then I wake up feeling sad. If I feel like crying I cry and I usually feel better when I'm done. This is what I mean when I say be kind to yourself-allow yourself to grieve, don't bury it.
Feel free to ask me anything about my grieving experience-I don't mind sharing.
Julie, maybe your mom did not want you to know how serious her condition was, or maybe she did not want to accept it herself, but don't blame yourself.
Try to recall the happier times spent with your mom and embrace the love you have for each other; this will help you during this difficult time.
Your friend,
Laura
- At 2:42pm on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- Hello again Julie,
Thank you for your condolences on the loss of my daughter. I can tell you that on June 22 is when the "numb" stage of grief ended for me. Though there are several stages of grief they don't always happen in the order presented by the experts. Take life one day a time and most important, be kind to yourself. Grieving can take a very emotional as well as physical toll on a person if we allow it.
We are here for each other on this website so never hesitate to post memories of your mom or feelings you may be struggling with. I have found that writing, whether on here or in my private journal, has helped me tremendously.
Take care, Julie. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.
Laura
- At 9:39am on August 30, 2009,
Laura Villarreal said…
- Julie,
My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your mom. The bond between mother and daughter is like no other...my only child, my 33 year old daughter, was killed in a tragic accident on May 25, 2009. Missing her is all I do these days. Moving forward is a slow, painful process but it will happen. There is no time table for grieving.
I have found the members of this website to be very caring and supportive; we all share the common bond of grief.
Share as much as you are comfortable with and if you would like to post a photo of your mom that would be nice.
Keep us posted on your internship; I am also a medical assistant and I really enjoyed my internship with a cardiology group.
Take care.
Sincerely,
Laura
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Thank you Laura; my heart goes out to you.
Susan, you say so beautifully what I have been feeling for the last 6 1/2 months...what is to be done with all the love and affection we shared with our loved ones who have passed? This energy does not dissipate or transfer...it is always there boun…
For me, I am reminded of the season in some way, for example, A sign in the market about ordering your turkey. I stop and think, "Why didn't they take that sign down. The holidays are over... Oh, wait Christmas hasn't happened yet!" The spirit is no…
For everyone that has lost their Dad.
Will be a relief when the holidays are over !!! All the lights, carols, etc.... make me sort of angry !!! Then people say Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas , & all the )O&(&(&(*. Kill me now - pleaseeeeeeeeee.
Thanks for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Your story made me feel like I am not a lone. I thought I was the only one waking up with the thought of what I have to do for my grandfather. I was also his care giver. I was w…
everything I see, hear, smell reminds me of my mom. I see a woman on tv with the same hairstyle as my mom and I cry, a similar dress on a woman walking down the street. The smell of foods my mom liked. Everything will remind you. My mom's native lan…
Hi susan, im sorry for your loss, losing someone is very tough indeed and i cannot imagine what pain you must be going through after sharing such a special bond with your dad, which you are fortunate to have, not everyone shares such a special bond…
I go to work I sit at HIS desk. I go home I pass HIS house.Every where I turn there he should be. I raised by my grandmother ( 4-7-08) and grandfather ( 12-2-09) I built my adult live around them. I took care of them until the day the died. I never…
this is ment for the people who have lost the closest thing to them it doesnt matter if its a person or an animal it's stilla lost and they all hurt
I need help! I wake up in the mornings and wnt it to all go away. My pastner died suddenly on 25th September 2009. I found him and had to perform CPR but it was too late. I miss him more than is bearable. I don't want to go to work or do anythin but…
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And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
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