Multiple Losses Group

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Comment by Julie Marie Weiss on October 17, 2009 at 7:51pm

To all who have lost loved ones and/or friends, my heart goes out to you! I have lost my dad, my mom, my second mom(my grandma), grandpa and my beloved Mn Schn named Chief.

I try to focus on what I do have such as my wonderful ex-husband, dear friends and my dads second family. Some days are so much harder and when anything real good or bad happens I want to call my mom who died just this August and she is not there. In february it will be 5 years since I lost dad and sometimes I feel so sad but not sure who I am sad for.

Comment by Katie Grace on October 15, 2009 at 12:06pm

talking to a counselor and friends have both really helped me and talking to a pastor or spiritual leader is also a good idea...i have even downloaded sermons about grief and loss and watched them at home because that is a tremendous weight for any one person to bear! hope you find the support you are looking for!

Comment by A West on October 14, 2009 at 7:38pm

Dear Mandi, What a tremendous amount of loss to bear. Life can sometimes challenge us to the point that we feel we cannot take it anymore. But, we can take it. We can take it and move forward. I've lost my mother, father, two brothers and best friend. I keep thinking, "OK God, no more...no more, gimme a break!" I just started seeing a counselor this week, hopefully that will bring perspective back. I really recommend you talk to someone...a friend, pastor, counselor.....someone who can justify everything you are feeling and let you know that you are normal. I will be thinking of you as you endure this latest loss....hopefully knowing others are with you will help, even if it's just a bit.

Comment by Mandi Shoopman on October 14, 2009 at 4:53pm

Last year, a dear friend of mine died of leukemia at the age of 27. A few weeks later, a college friend of mine died in her sleep suddenly. A month after that (a year ago December), my husband's grandmother died, a week later a close family friend died of cancer. Six months following that, my 21 year old cousin died in an accident (this was 7 months ago). Three weeks ago, a close friend died of a brain tumor at the age of 36. I cannot express the feeling in my heart. I feel so empty.

Comment by Katie Grace on October 2, 2009 at 5:01pm

im glad to see that you are taking some space and allowing yourself to grieve in your own way...in time im sure it will be addressed when things aren't as raw and hopefully you two can work out your differences or at least work out a compromise so this doesn't continue to create a divide between the two of you. I know my family and I grieved in very different ways and at first we were somewhat disconnected, but now we are able to grow closer together...hope the same happens for you

Comment by Kate on September 26, 2009 at 12:26pm

I love my dad

Comment by Kate on September 26, 2009 at 12:17pm

losing both of my father figures is a unique loss to me and my sister only, within my family, my mother lost her soulmate (my stepfather) and an ex-husband, my step brothers and sisters lost their father but ,my sister and I lost our father - the man who raised us from birth for 20 years and our step father, the man who made my mother deeply happy.
Now my mum is alone and grieving her soulmate but not her ex husband- she told me 'i don't care about your father,'
Something i have heard her say in many different ways throughout my life

So my mother and I are seperated until one of us is strong enough to accept the grief of the other.
My mother continues to put down my father, my sister and myself even in grief.
I can't be around her, or anyone who has negative things to say about my father.

Comment by Kate on September 24, 2009 at 12:32am

I lost my biological dad, my stepdad and my great Aunt all in January this year,
I'm still struggling to work through everything, it has been one of the most testing times in my life.
This support group is lovely though and very soothing - thanks to everyone xxx

Comment by Katie Grace on September 22, 2009 at 12:50pm

im glad you are getting support here and hope you continue to look for support in order to get what you need. Finding a good balance between reaching out and finding time for yourself is important and Im glad to hear you are taking time out for yourself

Comment by Julie Marie Weiss on September 15, 2009 at 8:44pm

Unfortunately I see that I am not alone and to tell the truth this is the most support I have received. Everybody has gone away. I am trying to take it a few minutes at a time.

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