for loved ones who have lost someone to suicide

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Comment by donna henderson on November 4, 2009 at 10:02pm

i think my cousin had many problems including addiction, he also lost his best friend two years ago in a motorcycle accident, they are buried together in the cemetery in an double plot.

Comment by donna henderson on November 1, 2009 at 10:55pm

i dont know what to tell you grandma g, except that your daughter in law needs to talk about it. because holding it in is not healthy. her mother in law needed help but like so many of us who battle mental health issues she was in denial about it. there is nothing that can be said or done to bring them back, and what really pisses me off is when people say that they have gone to a better place. wrong, they should have got help, if my cousin had he might not be sober but at least he would be alive instead of in a box in a cemetary.

Comment by Grandma G on November 1, 2009 at 11:29am

My daughter-in-law's mother took her life Aug 2009, I just don't understand. She never left a note, but it was determined that she took someone elses drugs, it was in her system. She left behind three children, husband of 34 years, 6 wonderful grandchildren, brother and sister, and too many friends to even count. How can someone do this. No one had any idea she planned this. I can't even talk about her unless I cry. How can I help my daughter (daughter-in-law) if when she talks about her mom I start crying. I sometimes feel so mad because she did this, how could she bring such sadness to everyone around. (She had a brother and her mother take their own lives and she had told her whole family that "This has to stop!"). To me she knew the pain she would cause and she still did it. Can any one help me understand.

Comment by Linda Brady on October 11, 2009 at 9:05pm

Diana, I think it is good for you to have questions. The more we sit back and just take what we are told, the more questions we have. I know without a doubt that my boyfriend of 7 yrs ended his life, but I too keep questioning its truth. My mind cannot accept that he actually succeeded and left us behind.
The pain he was suffereing was so unbearable, he was not himself anymore.
I hope you find some answers some time soon. All the what ifs are enough to drive us completely crazy. YOu need to keep asking questions UNTIL all is answered to your satisfaction. I also lost a brother in law to suicide in August. I have had two suicides in 33 days and I have great difficulty that these two generous people opted out of life. They never complained or asked why me? Its amazing how our minds try to make us believe what we truly want. My prayers are with you.

Comment by Diana Young on October 11, 2009 at 8:50am

My brothers death certificate says suicide. I never believed it. I think he was murdered. But am I in denial?

Comment by donna henderson on October 10, 2009 at 10:10pm

my cousin doug was 24 years old and he went and committed suicide on thursday he hung himself and his friend found him the paramedics tried to revive him but to no avail. this has been the shittiest year of my life.